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Welcome to your 40's! An Introductory guide.....

If you are reading this then you have recently turned 40, are in the midst of your 40's or are near the end run. Regardless, you are wondering what happens now; I can't believe this is happening; what the hell just happened. Grab a drink and let's talk. 

Don't believe that s**t about 40 being the new 20; it isn't and frankly, you don't want it to be. Believe me. You are not twenty anymore but you are forty and fabulous. Which is much, much better. It will take a surprisingly short while but you will realize you are happy to be here. Seriously. 

My girlfriends and I refer to this decade as the (insert swear word here) "F*** It Forties" for in the beginning that will be your answer to everything that comes your way. Seriously late to work? F*** It!  Stain in an obvious place on the new dress you are wearing out? F*** It!  He didn't return your text/email/voicemail/MMS/IM? F*** It!  

There is a lot that happens to you physically, emotionally and spiritually during this decade but the pluses definitely outweigh what might be considered minuses - at least from your vantage point. Everyone else better watch the hell out. Some highlights:

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1. You won't feel the need to 'make nice' anymore. ("Ah, honey...if you leave that wet towel on the bed again I WILL cut you".)

2. You won't feel the need to mince words anymore. ("Yes. You are a total and complete idiot for staying with/living with/marrying him".)

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3. You won't feel the need to attend every event, every time, with everyone while providing some lame excuse ("Honestly, I just feel like staying home. Alone".). 

4. Your desire for sex will put an 18 year old boy to shame. Serious red-faced head hanging low down dirty shame.

5. You will finally feel 100% your true self. No would've, could've, should've...water under the proverbial bridge.  

In addition, you will experience confusion (why is the remote in my purse?); brain farts (whasshishame?) and unexplained medical conditions (this is the third day my pinkie toes on both feet are on fire) but trust me, it's like....well, remember that 70's song, of course you do you're forty, "I am woman, hear me roar?". Well honey, wait until they get a load of you. 

So come join me while I regal you with stories, some funny some sad, about all of the changes, some wonderful some difficult, that are coming your way. No one told me and I was surprised on a daily basis which is an unpleasant way to live for someone who prefers her seat facing the door in a restaurant. And maybe you do too or just want to cry, laugh or nod along in agreement with me. 

Just don't forget to bring your cocktail before you do.  

xo, 

Forty(ish) and Fabulous 

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